When you know better, you do better..
I'm so delighted to be writing my first blog post! I've always enjoyed writing and I am excited to be writing about topics wellness related as it is my absolute passion.
As I was planning my first blog post I thought "what better than something self love & empowerment related."
I am a huge self love advocate and any of you who follow me on my Instagram page @skeanewellness will be aware of this.
Working as a psychotherapist and also just being out in the world on a daily basis has opened me up to how many people have self esteem issues and speak to themselves in a demeaning and hurtful manner. I too spoke to myself in this way for years, constantly putting myself down and speaking to myself internally in a way that I would never speak to someone else. I would constantly beat myself up about actions I had taken in the past and things I wish I could change. I did not know that by spending so much time focusing on the past, that I was also impacting on my present and future self. The more I became aware of my thought process through therapy and personal development, the more I realised how harsh I was being on myself.
One day I was listening to a podcast by Oprah Winfrey and I heard her say the phrase "when you know better, you do better". It was an "ah-ha" moment for me as I realised the power of hindsight. I was being harsh to my younger self for doing things my present self wouldn't have done however I was forgetting that I did not know back then, what I know now!!! That one line "when you know better, you do better" really struck a chord with me as I feel it sums up so many of my past life choices or mistakes as I did not "know better". Now that I do, I will not repeat the same mistakes. Whenever I find myself starting to speak poorly to myself now about life decisions in the past, I remind myself of this phrase and I quickly remember that who I am now is very different to who I was then.
So for anyone out there who is reading this and feels ashamed for past choices or beats themselves up for various reasons, hear me when I say that you are constantly evolving and learning. You cannot change the past however you can change how you view it. Remind yourself that you did not know then, what you know now. Make a promise to yourself that now that you know better, you will do better. Nothing good ever comes from beating yourself up. All you can do is learn from the past and try to create a brighter future by bringing that learning along with you.
Sinead Keane Wellness